Seanan's Tumblr

Urban Fantasy Halloween Girl at large

Teachers are often unaware of the gender distribution of talk in their classrooms. They usually consider that they give equal amounts of attention to girls and boys, and it is only when they make a tape recording that they realize that boys are dominating the interactions.

Dale Spender, an Australian feminist who has been a strong advocate of female rights in this area, noted that teachers who tried to restore the balance by deliberately ‘favouring’ the girls were astounded to find that despite their efforts they continued to devote more time to the boys in their classrooms. Another study reported that a male science teacher who managed to create an atmosphere in which girls and boys contributed more equally to discussion felt that he was devoting 90 per cent of his attention to the girls. And so did his male pupils. They complained vociferously that the girls were getting too much talking time.

In other public contexts, too, such as seminars and debates, when women and men are deliberately given an equal amount of the highly valued talking time, there is often a perception that they are getting more than their fair share. Dale Spender explains this as follows:

The talkativeness of women has been gauged in comparison not with men but with silence. Women have not been judged on the grounds of whether they talk more than men, but of whether they talk more than silent women.

In other words, if women talk at all, this may be perceived as ‘too much’ by men who expect them to provide a silent, decorative background in many social contexts. This may sound outrageous, but think about how you react when precocious children dominate the talk at an adult party. As women begin to make inroads into formerly ‘male’ domains such as business and professional contexts, we should not be surprised to find that their contributions are not always perceived positively or even accurately.

[x] (via neighborly)

As a teacher, I give girls what I hope is a lot of attention.  I don’t know if I give girls their fair share, but I aspire to, especially after noticing that boys are willing to use their greater share of teachers’ attention to get girls who they feel aren’t being quiet and docile enough punished.  I have therefore acquired a reputation for “caring more about the girls.”  This has had two marked results: Some straight boys have gotten more hostile toward me, and most girls have gotten more confident around me.  This makes me think I’m doing something right.

Longer thoughts on how this phenomenon relates to sexual harassment in classrooms, if you’re interested: The girls figured out I won’t report them if they hit boys who are sexually harassing them, I’ll only report the boys.  This led to an increase in how often girls got the last word and boys got smacked in my classes, and, also, to a DECREASE IN HOW OFTEN GIRLS GOT SEXUALLY HARASSED.  The sexual harassers seem to have been depending on the sort of “equal blame” and “retaliation is never warranted” and “don’t hurt others’ feelings” perspectives so many schools try to instill in kids; the sexual harassers were usually the ones bringing me into the situation by saying, “Miss, she hit me!  You should write her up!”  Once they figured out I was only ever going to respond, “If you don’t treat girls like that, they won’t hit you,” the girls got more confident and the sexual harassers largely shut the fuck up.

In schools, fighting against sexual harassment is often punished exactly the same as, or more severely than, sexual harassment — a lot of discipline codes make no distinction between violence and violence in self-defence, and violence is ALWAYS the highest level of disciplinary infraction, whereas verbal sexual harassment rarely is.  Sexual harassers, at least in the schools I’ve been in, rely heavily on GETTING GIRLS IN TROUBLE WITH HIGHER AUTHORITIES as a strategy of harassment — creating an external punishment that penalises girls for and therefore discourages girls from fighting back.  Sexual harassers are willing to use their greater share of floorspace to ask to get girls who won’t date them punished.  By and large, teachers do punish those girls when they swear or hit.  Schools condition girls to ignore sexual harassment by punishing them when they speak up or fight back instead.

Once the sexual harassers in my classes understood that girls wouldn’t be punished for rejecting them, they backed off around me.  And there started to be a flip in what conversations I get called into — girls are telling me when boys are being nasty (too loud and dominant), instead of boys telling me when girls are being uncooperative (louder and more dominant than boys think they should be).

(via torrentofbabies)

reblogging again for the wonderful commentary.

(via partysoft)

(Source: colinfirthhasmoved, via knitmeapony)

  1. lirold reblogged this from sunshinebabyniall
  2. theblindbankerlovesjohnlock reblogged this from fandommember
  3. alexkingstonturnedmelesbian reblogged this from fandommember
  4. running-withthe-doctor reblogged this from fandommember
  5. secretsinjackthebunny reblogged this from fandommember
  6. fandommember reblogged this from memberofnumerousfandoms
  7. infinitystreet reblogged this from colinfirthhasmoved
  8. thefuckcarterandcraig reblogged this from eli-dolcefarniente
  9. eli-dolcefarniente reblogged this from anuncommonloon
  10. outofcreativenames reblogged this from doodlystuffs
  11. anuncommonloon reblogged this from maghrabiyya
  12. nancynarcolepsy reblogged this from missmannybee
  13. francescaswonderland reblogged this from burymewithbooks
  14. burymewithbooks reblogged this from librariansoul
  15. the-consulting-dominatrix reblogged this from jorinda
  16. pantslessinanity reblogged this from old-manrupee
  17. missmannybee reblogged this from misandry-mermaid
  18. scarlettablack reblogged this from lukesunborn
  19. cultivatinggrace reblogged this from rapeculturerealities
  20. absolita reblogged this from old-manrupee
  21. nokoikoi reblogged this from old-manrupee
  22. purplekraken reblogged this from chubby-bunnies
  23. old-manrupee reblogged this from a-tully-of-riverrun
  24. undeadreidlos reblogged this from littleturtledreams
  25. littleturtledreams reblogged this from misguidedwanderlust
  26. doodlystuffs reblogged this from a-tully-of-riverrun
  27. a-tully-of-riverrun reblogged this from burgerking-slayer
  28. listenpal reblogged this from stupid-fucking-rope
  29. itsonlyforever82 reblogged this from stupid-fucking-rope
  30. sunnyskiesoceaneyes reblogged this from malpensed
  31. comrade-monkey reblogged this from matryoshka-regress
  32. fyibitch reblogged this from theheckarethosetwodoinginatree
  33. sparklingliterature reblogged this from mischiefmanaged1701